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[Jagriti] Confidence?

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Is confidence as a concept is overrated? 
Is Confidence as an image required?
We simply do a whole lot of stuff, we achieve a whole lot of milestones - including becoming parents:), in spite of being not-quite-confident of ourselves.
Even more overrated and damaging is the image of social confidence. Too many parents think their children are shy and too many parents are worried about it. While the former (being shy) may be correct, the latter (worrying) is not required. Imagine a world with all extroverts! Also a child can easily be socially less confident (say, shy of meeting new people) but may have high self belief which is enough for the child to lead a happy contented life.If you want check out the video recording of a session we did not confidence - see http://www.youtube.com/embed/VEJMi2gD9iU  (This online session happened with about 70 participants on Wednesday, 7th Feb, 2018 )Else read on for a summary:
We all want confident children - but maybe, just maybe, we are wanting the wrong thing. Let's spend some time to understand confidence and then decide what we want and how to go about giving the child, the best of the child.What would happen if we relegated confidence as something unimportant, irrelevant and useless?
Our contention is that we would automatically focus on
• Acceptance
• Connecting with the emotions
• Understanding behaviour and fears
• Giving more opportunities and free play
• Letting GO of the child, our expectations, and images

warmly
Ratnesh  (Ph: +91-98450-45833)
Aarohi is an Open Learning Community for learners of all ages: Open to all kinds of interests, abilities, styles and content areas. Learning by doing what one wants, how one wants, and self reflection. Community to co-live, co-learn and co-support each other. Aarohi's Campus is in a village near Hosur in Tamil Nadu (55km fm Bangalore).
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