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Do you OverStand or UnderStand your child? ðŸ˜¯

Hi Rashmi Virendra

What do we as parents want: to OverStand or UnderStand our children?
Just break these words into two parts: Stand-Under and Stand-Over.

OverStand is when we stand over the child, monitor them, drive them, expect them to behave, study, live as per our designs and expectations - and so on.
Over stand is when I am higher (above) the child. Over Stand is when I control and lead the child.
If I am overstanding how can I understand the child?

Under-stand is when I keep my opinions, beliefs, expectations aside and then listen, consider and value what the child is thinking, feeling, wanting, exploring.
Under-stand is when I am below the child as far as the child's life is concerned - for he/she is the leader of his/her life.  Or atleast I am at par with the child - his/her PARtner.

So many times we end up OVER-Standing our children with our thinking, solutions, constructs, narratives rather than under-STANDING them.
Inviting you to be part of our Jagriti program - where we co-create some paradigms, some perspectives, some insights on how we can actually try to under-STAND them and in the process create deeper connections and relationships with 'em.

JAGRITI has been Aarohi's core UnParenting program since 2002 and Batch #60 starts on 19th Jan.
https://aarohilife.org/jagriti

Jagriti will NOT give you any solutions to your parenting problems; It will invite you to look for your own solutions;

Or maybe, Jagriti will prompt you to invite your child to solve the problems;
Or maybe, you will start thinking that there are no problems, so nothing to solve;
Or maybe, Jagriti will make you rejoice in every problem as an opportunity for you and child to learn;
Or maybe you will forget problems, opportunities, learning and even that you are a parent;
Or maybe Jagriti will just help you be and let the child be.
Or maybe ...

One thing we are sure of, Jagriti will open up sooooo many possibilities to value add and to enjoy life with your children.

See views of parents who have done Jagriti program earlier in this youtube playlist 
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL95z55j-O_ew-o5Pa2nZYskvJ3_yrFXgB

Jagriti is 10 online sessions, held twice a week (Tue & Fri) in the evening 7pm-9pm IST
Contribution for Jagriti is contribution to our charitable activities and hence we offer a sliding scale - pay anything between of ₹6,666 to ₹11,111
Interested? see https://aarohilife.org/jagriti
Queries - whatsapp Ratnesh on 72040-66694

warmly
Aditi & Ratnesh
Aarohi Open Learning Community
https://aarohilife.org




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